I am not sure what I was listening to lately, but they were talking about Eckhart Tolle and the concept of worrying. When they related his words – “Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose” – I started to shake my head at myself. Let me give you some background.
A girlfriend of mine was recently followed home. We know this because a man, who had pulled over by the side of the road to take a phone call and whose dad was former FBI, told her he had watched a man cross the street in the shadows and always behind her for several blocks. She elected not to call (or have him call) the authorities and instead rushed home and texted me. While one could argue the guy in the car made this all up, another could argue there was no benefit to him in making this up and he truly saved her from who knows what. Either way, it was scary and not a story you’d like to hear while your husband is away on a business trip like I was!
Needless to say my worrying took over and it poured out of me as if it was a waterfall, making this image perhaps too appropriate. While A was away I locked all the doors and checked that they were locked multiple times. I had nightmares. I couldn’t sleep. And what purpose did it serve? Nothing good. I was just more anxious, more afraid, more scared, and more sleep-deprived. I grew so tired of worrying I started to think about what I needed to do to make myself feel safer in my home. So, I signed up for a self-defense class. Since making that decision, my worrying has subsided. It hasn’t gone away entirely, but realizing that I can do something was a step in the right direction.
Is there anything you are worrying about? Write it down. Then, figure out what you can do to make the worrying go away. There likely is something, even a small step, that can help you get back control.
Let’s start this Monday worry free. Who is with me!?