I’m on a major Brene Brown binge. In case you haven’t read any of her books, the most notable are The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, and Rising Strong. I’m deep into The Gifts of Imperfection mostly because I’ve realized that I need it. I need exactly what Brene says in the title “let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.” Why is that so hard?! I have a chronic problem with this. I don’t want to make mistakes. I don’t want to fail. I want to fit in. I want to always do the right things. I don’t want there to be a time where someone looks at me like I’m crazy.
That has worked fantastically for me to be by all general accounts a successful person. I have a beautiful family with a supportive husband, polite and kind kids, a beautiful house in a nice suburban town, a great job, etc. So why do I sometimes feel like I’ve driven right into a brick wall? It doesn’t feel like it seems like it should. I’ve done all the right things. But, what I’m beginning to realize is that sometimes it isn’t the right thing for me. We are not all uniform people. What makes you happy may not be what makes me happy. And sometimes just because you can be good at something doesn’t mean you should be doing it…at least not forever. Perhaps it has a place in your life, but then you can’t stay. Things change. You change, circumstances change.
All this to say that I am working so hard to be my authentic self and let that self be seen by the world. Maybe everyone won’t like it. But wouldn’t it be better to live life as myself than trying to stuff that person aside to be who others want me to be? (Feel free to keep reminding me that!)
Do you struggle to let yourself be seen like I do? I’d love to hear from you.