Last week we discussed Gretchen Rubin’s book Better Than Before about building habits. In one of the many sections where she shares a personal story about her efforts to build habits, she says, “What I do everyday matters more than what I do once in a while.”
This quote stuck with me and gave me comfort on this journey towards creating new habits, though perhaps not exactly how Gretchen intended. Habits can be something you do everyday, like exercise, meditation or writing in a journal. There is a peace which comes with the familiar, and the familiar is achieved through repetition from which a habit can develop. But the concept of committing to something everyday right out of the gate can be challenging, so what about aiming for somewhere in between? What about aiming for something that is more than once in a while, but not quite everyday, as you work up towards everyday? That logic has helped me actually make progress towards my habit of writing.
Now, I am not advocating for using this type of logic as a pass… not at all, and Gretchen talks quite a bit about different types of loophole logic. But sometimes I think we need to give ourselves a break and not take the “everyday” idea quite so literally. Take my writing as an example. I’m excited about my progress, but it totally isn’t perfect and isn’t quite everyday. Of the last 30 days, I’ve written roughly 75% of those days. And that’s ok for me right now. The point is that I’ve started to create the habit. I’m making progress. And, when I miss a day, I can tell because the next day, I am itching to write. And that feels good.
For me, this quote is about the intention of what you want to do and how you want to live your life everyday. If you’re making progress in that direction, and creating habits to support the life you want, you’re winning in my book!
Are you planning to work on any new habits this upcoming Fall? Please do share in the comments so we can support you along this journey!