During one summer many years ago, my best friend and I found ourselves single for the first time in years. While our reasons were overall different, we ended up with the same conclusion – that it was better for both parties if the relationship ended and we went our separate ways. She asked me a question during that summer that has been the baseline for all my relationships since – why didn’t our respective boyfriends treat us the same or better than our best friends?
Think about it. A best friend is supportive and encourages you to be your best self. She loves you unconditionally. She never forgets your birthday. She is always there. She isn’t perfect, because she can miss a text or show up late or forget to call you back. But, she always gets back to you. Yes, we likely do ask more of a boyfriend or girlfriend than a best friend, but if this is the baseline for any relationships in our lives, it’s going to hopefully lead to a pretty good relationship.
Today let’s take it one step further – why would you treat yourself worse than you would treat a best friend? Would you tell your best friend that she wasn’t good enough? Would you tell your best friend that she didn’t have the time or the skill to follow her dreams? Would you tell her that she couldn’t compete or her idea wasn’t unique enough? No! You wouldn’t tell her any of those things. Ever. It breaks the best friend code. You encourage and support and even offer assistance in areas where they may be weak. You lift them up; you don’t push them down.
I think we all need to give the best friend treatment to ourselves. We need to be our own best friend. Treat yourself to something this week. You deserve it!