Today, I wanted to talk about needing other people’s approval. If you’re anything like me, this is something you struggle with. Over the last two years, I’ve been making some big changes to my life and overall outlook. One of the things I’ve been doing is trying to re-program my brain to put more stock into my own opinions than what others have to say. If this sounds easy to you, you can move right along to the next post!
This process has been ROUGH. I am certainly making progress, but there are times when I fall back into my old habits. I discount my thoughts because someone else said something that made me doubt what I initially thought. I may even change course on a decision I made only to realize a bit later that it wasn’t the right decision for ME even if someone else thought it was. Have you ever done that?
The thing is, I need only my approval. We all have one life to live and it’s OURS. I am the only one who will regret not doing something. It’s only my happiness that’s at stake. At the end of my life, I am the one who will be able to say if it was a good life or not on my own terms.
My phrase for 2016 is “Show Up.” It means a lot of different things to me, but one of them was to be authentic in who I really am and voice my opinions without worrying about how others may react to them. After dragging my feet, I submitted my Huffington Post article about being a woman breadwinner. It was my own opinion and perspective on this topic. I was afraid of how others would react, but the reality is it doesn’t matter.
At the end of the day, I got a lot of support and positive comments, but I also got some rude comments. And that’s what happens when you show up. It can go several different ways. And I learned something. Becca will be reading comments on my posts from now on and giving me any feedback I need to know about! The rude comments are none of my business.
If you struggle with needing approval or worrying about others opinions of you, I want to encourage you to keep trying to live based on your own values and opinions. It may take you a long time to make the shift, but it’s worth trying. This is our one life.