Working in a corporate job has its ups and downs, and what makes it a fun roller coaster to ride are the relationships made in the office with coworkers.
It may take a while to understand the dynamics within the office and find your groove, but once you are able to make friends with your coworkers, coming into the office suddenly becomes – dare I say – fun! This is key because, while this realization may be scary for some, you are going to spend almost as much time, if not more time, with your coworkers than with your friends and family. Scary, right? This simple fact is why you want to find a good fit with both the work you do, as well as the people that you’ll be working with.
I’m currently in my fourth job since graduating college, and I’ve been here for almost six years – the longest I’ve been at any job. Yes, I like what I do, but more than that, I like who I do this job with. So, I wanted to share the key things I do to create friends with my coworkers.
How to build successful relationships with coworkers
- Say hello in the morning. A simple pleasantry is a great way to show your coworkers that you see them and you know they are there. It also can be the match that starts a longer conversation, such as how was your weekend or did you see the game last night.
- Take the time. I bet you have walked up to a coworker to vent about something or just gossip during the work day; and I bet they too have sought you out for the same mental break. When you find yourself in this situation, take the time to chat with your coworkers. Stop typing and make eye contact to have the conversation. They will return the favor. If it isn’t a good time, then be pleasant about how you say that, and be sure you follow up with them later to see what they wanted to chat about.
- Notice the details. We all know that the line between your work life and personal life is blurry – at times it is nonexistent. Remembering personal details about your coworkers like birthdays, kids names, where they live and vacation plans goes farther then you may think in solidifying those friendships. And it isn’t just about the personal details – if you think you can lend a hand with an upcoming presentation or navigating office politics, don’t be shy to offer your support.
- Think beyond the title – it’s about the person. You can learn something from everyone, so don’t let titles get in the way of a friendship. If you have a more hierarchical structure, you can still say hello or ask them what they are working on.
- Make yourself approachable. Yes, we all have busy days…but you don’t want people to think you are too busy for them. Say, “today is a busy day,” not “I am so busy.” It changes how people perceive you and your availability to do anything fun! If you never accept a lunch date or make time to chat, your coworkers will stop inviting you to things, and then work becomes less enjoyable.
- Get outside the office. Grab lunch, coffee or after work drinks, or even just go on a mid-day walk. Getting outside of the office is a great way to get to know your coworkers. Everyone loosens up outside of the office. Plus, getting away from the computer screen is good for us all!
Happiness in the office has less to do with the work or task at hand and more to do with the people you are working with. Your actions do matter and will be noticed. Please comment below and let us know tips you use to build successful relationships with your coworkers!