Who doesn’t want to dare greatly?! For this month’s book club, we chose Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly. Though we’ve heard of her research and books through other podcasts like The Lively Show, neither of us had read anything by her. After watching her TED Talk on vulnerability, we were hooked and added this quickly to the queue.
Overall Pop Rating (1 to 5 stars, more stars the better we thought it popped!)
B: 4.5. I truly enjoyed Daring Greatly. Brené Brown effectively mixes learnings from her research with her family experiences that make the book approachable and relatable. Daring Greatly covers tough topics, like shame and vulnerability, and is at times uncomfortable to read; but as she so eloquently puts it, “If you’re comfortable, I’m not teaching and you’re not learning.” Many of the points she made are still swirling in my head as I figure out how to adapt them to my own life.
T: 4. This book was very thoughtful in its approach and I found Brené to be really relatable. She touches on topics that most people just do not talk about and really made me think. I continue to ponder the concepts she brought up which I think is a sign of a great book! (P.S. Becca and I write our reviews separately and then put them together for the post so you can see how similarly we reacted to this one!)
Why were you drawn to read this book?
B: I wanted to learn more about her research around vulnerability. It is something I’ve thought about in my own life – specifically around how it relates to the decisions I make and my relationships with others. After hearing her TED talk, I started to see that it affects so much more then the narrow lens I was thinking about.
T: Brené Brown’s books have been recommended over and over by podcasts, blogs, and classes I’ve taken. I love the idea of “daring greatly” and after Becca shared her TED talk with me, I knew we had to read it!
What is one thing that you will take away from this book?
B: There really are way too many! I already know that I am going to read it again, though next time with more highlighting. I found her chapter on shame incredibly eye opening. She contrasts shame and guilt and shows how just a subtle change in the words we use can change a phrase from one of shame to one of guilt, yielding a very different result. I can be susceptible to self-shame, telling myself I cannot do it or that I cannot do it well, and she had some tips on how to built your shame resilience which I definitely plan to incorporate into my daily life. I also just loved everything she had to say about vulnerability. She breaks it down in the chapters but constantly brings it back to the fact that you have to be vulnerable to grow, a theme which inspired the TGIM I wrote back in June.
T: We really need to change this from one thing as I never have one thing! So, I’m cheating with more than one once again! This quote is simple, but was really compelling to me, “Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.” Cue me throwing out all my parenting books (just kidding, kind of!). She talks about how hard it is to be consistent with what you say to your kids and what you actually do which is so true. She gives you a pass and says that it’s important to do the best you can…the majority of the time. We’re all human and cannot react perfectly to every situation. I also loved “The willingness to show up changes us. It makes us a little braver each time.” This is exactly how I feel about all the new things we’ve tried as a result of this blog from fitness classes to calligraphy. I feel much more brave entering into unknown territory because I continue to do it time and time again.
Who would you recommend this book to?
B: Everyone! But more specifically, anyone who is managing others or is/will be a parent. (Side note: I haven’t read many parenting books so I don’t have much to compare it to, but I did find that her thoughts on parenting resonated with me.) Also, anyone who has experienced shame or has a loved one who has been shamed.
T: It is relevant to every single human being, but I’m not sure if everyone would be open to reading it as some deep thinking is required! So, I’ll go with a thoughtful person who wants to live a big life.